Mondays with Martha

Are you staying in a nowhere relationship?

If you’re single and don’t want to be, you’re probably tired of trying to figure out why. I've spoken with women and men who stayed in long term relationships far longer than they should. Whether it's 18 months, 5 or 10 years, they stayed in dead-end relationships month after month even though it became clear their relationship wasn't going anywhere. You know when the relationship is not progressing.
If you're looking for marriage and possibly children and he or she isn't, the earlier you end it and move on the better. You should free yourself so you can find a more compatible partner. You can tell, even in the first few months if you're falling in love and and are open-mind toward a future together.

Is he looking to keep things somewhat casual? Then he’s not in a position or doesn't want to offer you a serious committed relationship. Some women, when faced with this situation think that if they give it more time and are patient enough, the man will eventually come around. But it really doesn’t work that way. Don’t Settle. Settling is one of the most destructive diseases present in relationships as we know them.

Talk to him calmly and find out whether or not the two of you are on the same page. Be clear. Let him know that, you’re looking for someone to share your life with, and if he’s not looking for the same thing then you’re not a match. He'll either step up to the plate and be marriage material or, he won’t. 

Men can also have this problem, with a woman dating him for the wrong reasons. You have to be prepared to walk away when you find out he or she doesn’t want what you want. This is a good thing. Now, you can stop wasting your time in this going nowhere relationship and put your energies toward finding Mr or Mrs Right!
If you'd like more information on my dating/relationship services e-mail martha@marthassingles.com/