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Soulmate What is it and Do you want one? 

In the movie "Shall we dance?" starring Richard Gere and Susan Sarandon there is a terrific scene where Susan's character is describing why she loves being married to her Soulmate.

She says " We need a witness to our lives. There are a billion people on the planet.....I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything--the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things--all of it, all the time, every day. You're saying "Your life will not go by unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness." 

Maybe the word soulmate doesn't resonate with you. Not everyone identifies with that term. But a rose by any other name smells as sweet. Maybe its a best friend who's also your lover. Maybe you call it Big Love. Learn more about The Law of Attraction to help you find that special person. E-mail martha@marthassingles.com for a free consultation.

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Dating/Relationship Advice "Five Tips to keep the Romance"

1. Talk to each other. Best friends talk!!! Once the initial passion dies down, you are left with conversation. If there is no conversation then the relationship may only be built on the physical, and thus, not likely to last in the long-term. Find new things to talk about every day, even if it is just reporting your day to your loved-one. Talk about current events in the news, the plot of your favorite movie or just discuss plans for the next time you go out. Talking is the key to longevity…don't forget it!

2. Give gifts. Sure, you can survive on love alone - but why? Don't ever forget the importance of gifts! Don't feel like you must spend a fortune on gift-giving - after all, it's the little things that count anyway. A single flower, a picture frame, a magazine….any little thing that reminds you of your lover….will make your sweetheart's love grow.

3. Make Love Well, this is self-explanatory. Believe it or not, sometimes in a long-term relationship, sex gets put on a back burner. Try not to let this happen. Talking openly about the subject and being genuinely affectionate will help keep the fire lit.

 4. Flirt. No, not with other people! With each other! Once people settle into a relationship, it gets easier and easier to forget to continuously woo the object of your affection. Don't forget the hair flips, the coy smiles and the light touches on the arm - they can be integral in keeping the excitement going, especially after many years and a few kids.

 5. Date. Grab your calendars and set a time each week or each month for an official "date." Plan ahead and alternate who is responsible for making the plans. If you have a date night, you have something special to look forward to - and for parents it could be a much-needed adult night out.